The Adventures of Yin and Yang : Finding Balance

The philosophy of Yin Yang is that there are two forces that oppose yet compliment each other. For example: night and day, hot and cold, life and death, male and female, etc. In no way am I a Taoist but I have definitely found the Yang to my Yin. We've all heard that "Opposites Attract" but my goodness 

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Bae and I are complete opposites!

What do I do?

I have struggled greatly with trying to find balance because I am so adventurous, high energy, sassy, and always on the go. However, my Yang is laid back, chill, serious, disciplined and loves to be home.  We are from different countries, different educational backgrounds, and completely different personalities. But we have one major thing in common and that is our love for God! No matter our differences, we have the same value system and both are convicted by the Holy Spirit. If we have a problem, we find solutions in the Scriptures. I pray fervently for this man but I am currently learning to embrace our differences instead of fighting it. The more I wish he was like me, the more frustrated I get. However, when I take a step back, I see that our differences compliment each other and make us an effective team. What one lacks, the other picks up the slack.

“Blessed are the peacemakers, for they will be called children of God” 

(Matt 5:9)

It’s not wise to spend time fighting because you are different. It’s not your job to make your boo more like you. There is a reason you  are different; EMBRACE it, you can learn from it. Personally, I’ve learned to value sleep, take it easy, slow down and stay home.

Seek Peace. Embrace the Differences. Enjoy the Relationship

Year One Complete

My EPIC FAIL at Haitian Spaghetti

You know when you wake up with a craving but at the same time you are feeling ambitious.. like you could  ACTUALLY try and make your craving ? Well, I attempted to make Haitian Spaghetti...

As you can see it was an epic fail but it was edible! I'll try again after a little more training but it is so important to cook. People are constantly eating out and they are gaining weight and getting sick. It is healthier to have control over what you are consuming. Like honestly do you really know what is in those chicken nuggets? - Officially NO FAST FOOD

When I went to the grocery store to buy ingredients, I was like why in the world is it $5 for this pepper? LIKE WHY? I've been talking to an old man about starting an herb garden. He's an expert and he goes on and on about his love for herbs. Surprisingly, this spark for gardening has blossomed but I believe it comes naturally. My father is an awesome gardener and I'm pretty sure I get it from him. 

Be Careful of What You Consume

You SHOULD practice CHEATING before You Get Married ?

If you have ever been cheated on, I am SURE that it is a very painful process. A very confusing yet emotional process. You put your heart and soul into your relationship and for what? Just so you can find out they’ve been talking and going out with other people the entire time?

As women, it is so easy to get so devoted to your relationship. The Bible even says in Genesis 3:16 “…Your desire will be for your husband, and he will rule over you."

That’s right, it is very natural for you to desire your man! You always want to spend time with him but you slowly begin to forget about yourself.  You get so wrapped up in him that you forget your own dreams and aspirations.

I have heard of so many young women settling because they found a man. Society pressures us go to college, be a slave to student loans, know someone romantically for a year, have an expensive wedding and Kaboom!... start having babies.

On my recent trip to New York City, I was reminded of a dream I had as a young girl. I dreamed of being on Broadway!  In college I was even accepted into the NewYork Academy for Dramatic Arts for my acting skills. However, I took the conventional route.

So many single people are upset because they are single but why not focus on YOUR dream? Start that business, blog, or YouTube channel?

  So many people  are in relationships where they are so wrapped up in their boo that they are slowly losing themselves. It’s time to CHEAT! Not with a side chick or dude but with a SIDE hustle. Do those things that God called you to do. Those gifts and talents were given to you for a reason honey, USE THEM! Yes , relationships are HANDWORK but remember that God put you on earth for a purpose and it is your duty to fulfill that purpose. In my opinion, that work is definitely more important.

In my heart there is still this dream to create, sing, and act but with purpose. I want to use my passion for the arts with my purpose of helping others to make this world a better place and I am slacking….

Cheers to being less BAE DRIVEN & more PURPOSE DRIVEN

Him, His Girlfriend & I