He's NOT Worth Compromising For

You might have grown up thinking that relationships are all about compromise that there was this system of give and take and as long as you abide by it you will be happy. I was taught that as a woman I was created to be submissive and somehow I confused that with compromising who I was for someone else once.  BIG MISTAKE! Now of course, you will have to  sacrifice in a relationship because they are an investment and take time to build. Cool! BUT, you should NEVER have to sacrifice who you are as a person to be in a relationship. I’ve seen many women transform themselves into the perfect partner for their mate and lose sight of themselves and they wound up miserable. This is NOT the WAY, honey!

EARTHA KITT & COMPRIMISE 

I have watched this video with Eartha Kitt to give me a reality check many times. I don’t have to compromise who I am to be with anyone, if they don’t fit, they just don’t fit. Don’t FORCE IT! You are not meant to be everything to everyone and you don’t have to change yourself.

Stay true to who you are and the Lord will give you someone who will compliment that. As a culture we often idolize relationships and put pressure on those who aren't in relationships. Don't lose yourself trying to chase a man, it's never worth it. The world needs you to be unapologetically you. You don't have to dumb yourself down, tone down your creativity or push your dreams aside. You were created to be more than some man's wife, embrace your greatness because you would be a food to compromise, sweetheart! 

Are You Willing To Do What Scares You?

Last year around this time, I decided to conquer my fear of Halloween Horror Night’s and become a House Attendant. Haunted houses freak me out, I don’t like blood, guts, horror or gore it all makes me queasy. My first time ever visiting, I went through the entire event calling on the name of Jesus with my eyes closed. However, I aspire to be fearless, so as an attendant I put on my big girl pants and strutted through the house each night, AFRAID!

I am determined to not let fear keep me from doing anything, are you?

Fear paralyzes us from having what we want. It has been said many ways but everything that we desire is on the other side of fear. Rejection, failure, abandonment etc. You name it… if it isn’t of love then it is of  fear.

In the  season in which many celebrate  spooks, ghouls, goblins, witches and scares… I’m challenging myself to get out of my comfort zone and do things that absolutely scare the crap out of me this month. I no longer want to be a slave to fear, I want to walk in the authority that I was born with. There are many ideas, goals, dreams that I don't want to take to the grave with me. I want to live knowing that when God placed something on my heart, I didn't tremble in fear but I utilized what He gave me and together we made it happen.

"For God has not given us the spirit of fear but of power, love and a sound mind."

2 Timonthy 1:7 

Stop sleeping on what He has assigned you to do because you are afraid. There are others depending on you to be obedient. 

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Am I Ready For A Husband ?

I was at my younger cousin's wedding when I was asked if I was EVER going to get married and I replied, “ It's NOT for everyone.” The truth is I definitely want to get married; however relationships can be a CHALLENGE in this generation! Settling down can almost seem impossible for some women because of society’s technological advances and adopted social norms. However, if it is your desire to be married, then get ready for a process of preparation. Marriage is a special covenant that should be taken seriously.

But ask yourself:

1. How is my relationship with God
2. Am I walking in my purpose
3. Does my life bear the fruit that I am a follower of Christ?
4. Do I love myself?
5. Am I focused more on pursuing a man or pursuing my purpose?    

You have a purpose on this earth and it is more than being some man’s wife. God has given you talents and gifts, use them! Pursue your purpose and the right man will come along in due time. Stop getting so focused on not having a man and focus on being led by the Spirit of God. Sis, God has a plan for you and He wants to give you the desires of your heart. Pray, Listen and Obey. God wants to use you and He has called you for such a time as this. Everything comes in His perfect timing. Take It EASY BOO!

Love & Light,

-DeLi

Don't Go Back To Egypt

Some women are addicted to dysfunctional relationships. You know that man or that friend that is constantly hurting you, why do you stick around?  Are you  so accustomed to chaos, lies, abuse and deceit that it's hard to get out of the cycle? 

Exodus 16:3

The Israelites said to them, "If only we had died by the LORD's hand in Egypt! There we sat around pots of meat and ate all the food we wanted, but you have brought us out into this desert to starve this entire assembly to death."


To make a long story short, the children of Israel were not in a healthy relationship with the Egyptians. The children of Israel were SLAVES and God provided an amazing way out for them but transitioning from slavery to freedom was a challenge. They missed certain aspects of their past and thought it would have been better to die in Egypt. 
You might have found yourself in a relationship that seemed so great and then it took a turn for the worse. You keep trying to fix it and make it right and things keep falling apart. So the Lord parts the RED Sea just so you can leave, but you keep going back to entertain it because it is comfortable and familiar. 

Look some relationships are NOT beneficial and when you finally cut it off, you might miss the past but you must realize that there are greater things ahead if you keep moving forward. Going back to the chaos will just continue the cylce, be strong enough to end it and trust that God will bring along someone  better. He has your best interest in mind learn from the past and create a better future by listening and obeying God. 

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Are You Clingy ?

If you ask God for something, He will show you honey! I've been seeking ways to improve myself and I realized something most people would find shocking. As a free spirit, I HAD BECOME A BIT CLINGY!  I don't have a history of strong friendships but the moment I got one, I wanted to hold on for dear life. And to show me this madness, God brought someone into my life to show me what it's like to have a "Clingy" person in your life. It drove me up the wall! I'm so free spirited that I just couldn't handle it at all.  However, he also sent one of the coolest people in my life to show me that it's okay to be myself and it's perfectly fine to desire strong friendships but there was no need to be desperate. People come and people go but cherish those that stay.

By faith, I believe that one day, I'll have strong friendships. 

Hey Best Friend! 

However, I've learned this:

Many women are being told to wait on God for a husband and well we think that any man that pursues us must hurry up and start preparing for marriage. YIKES! This sounds so crazy to me now. If the desire of your heart is marriage, God will  give it to you BUT genuine relationships take time to cultivate. Stop rushing marriage and being so quick to give marital privileges to boyfriends. We start looking for men to be ready for a long term commitment without truly getting to know them, take your time, stop avoiding the red flags. If that man doesn't want to be with you, stop trying to make that relationship happen. God closed the door for a reason. Being clingy and trying to work things out will only continue to push him away. Let it GO!
In all that you do seek God, have patience and trust that God will deliver what you have prayed for!

There is a Season for Everything, How Are You Using Your Time?

A Time for Everything

Ecclesiastes 3 : 1-8

3 For everything there is a season, and a time for every matter under heaven:

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a time to be born, and a time to die;

a time to plant, and a time to pluck up what is planted;

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a time to kill, and a time to heal;

a time to break down, and a time to build up;

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a time to weep, and a time to laugh;

a time to mourn, and a time to dance;

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a time to cast away stones, and a time to gather stones together;

a time to embrace, and a time to refrain from embracing;

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a time to seek, and a time to lose;

a time to keep, and a time to cast away;

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a time to tear, and a time to sew;

a time to keep silence, and a time to speak;

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a time to love, and a time to hate;

a time for war, and a time for peace.

It hit me that there is a time to be single and a time to be married.

If it is a desire in your heart to be married and your time has not come. How are you spending this time? Are you spending this time trying to reconcile things with your EX who has told you that he doesn’t want to be in a relationship? Are you looking to marry any man that approaches you? Maybe you are getting older and you think that God is withholding a husband from you? Trust that God will deliver the desires of your heart! 

But, I want to ask," Has God asked you to do something with your life and you are so busy looking for a husband that you have yet to do it?"

Get your priorities in order.

Many women are making idols out of men, relationships and marriage   and neglecting their purpose. If you are wondering why doors are closed, why there are no prospects or why he doesn't want to be in a relationship. It may  not be your season, respect it and do what He's called you to do! Don't waste this season, enjoy the life God has given you and be grateful for everything in your life.